Living with fullness and serenity does not depend on others. It is a personal decision.
To find your own way to be happy there is no single recipe, but there are certain useful tools. Because happiness goes far beyond joy; it is a way to find inner peace, to feel that life has meaning.
1. BET ON YOURSELF
If instead of supporting each other we constantly criticize or fight each other, we will not be able to move forward. Treating yourself with love and kindness is one of the basic principles of happiness.
2. GIVE AND RECEIVE LOVE
The balance between giving and receiving love rejoices the heart and makes the journey easier.
3. GIVING YOURSELF TIME
Being able to spend a while with yourself each day, in silence, in a quiet space, allows you to connect with your own essence and, over time, to be able to change what you don’t like about your life.
4. BE GRATEFUL FOR WHAT YOU HAVE
The feeling of gratitude automatically elevates the mood. Starting the day and ending it by saying thank you has a transformative effect. The constant complaint strengthens the darkness and the feeling of emptiness. Appreciation and gratitude create unity and wholeness.
5. OBSERVE THE MIND
Perhaps we are for example cleaning the kitchen or driving and we notice a slight discomfort in the body or the spirit. It is almost always associated with an unpleasant thought. If we become aware of our feelings and beliefs, we can begin to change them.
6. CREATE THE HABIT OF FORGIVING
Unfortunately, our childhood has been, no matter how much damage has been done to us, we can always choose to forgive. Forgiveness not only frees us: it also has the gift of broadening our perspective of existence. With forgiveness, every moment is a new beginning.
7. CHOOSE YOUR WORDS WELL
When we say one thing and actually think another, we do not create well-being in ourselves or around us. Words only have the power to heal when they come from the heart.
8. CHOOSE THE GOOD SIDE OF PEOPLE
It is not about not seeing what we do not like, but about putting the emphasis on the best of each one. That greatly reduces the tension in relationships.
9. TREAT THE BODY WELL
Feeding it in a healthy and balanced way is the smartest option. But it is also necessary to stop belittling him, looking for “buts” for him, instead of thanking him for allowing us to go through life. Before the mirror, the body needs sweet words, caresses and thanks instead of criticism.
10. AVOID JUDGMENTS AND REPROACHES
Although we do not emit them out loud, as we are all united at an unconscious level, others perceive in some way what we feel or think about them. Dogs instinctively grasp our inner state. Something similar happens to those around us.
11. TURN OFF “BAD” FEELINGS
We let go or surrender an uncomfortable feeling by allowing it to be present without condemning it, judging it, resisting it, or trying to modify it. In this way it ends up being exhausted. When we manage to let go of a repressed feeling, such as envy, thousands of thoughts associated with it vanish.
12. SAY YES TO THE NEW
Instead of opting, sometimes almost without thinking, for the “no, noo, nooo” when we are proposed to participate in something out of the ordinary, it can be much more stimulating to lean towards the “yes”. Opening up to life always brings rewards.
13. ASK FOR HELP
Participating in courses and workshops, reading magazines and personal growth books or starting some therapy encourages, without a doubt, our well-being.
14. SHARE WHAT YOU LEARN
It is gratifying to meet with like-minded people who intend to expand their awareness and improve, to discuss the respective findings.
15. FOCUS ON THE “WHY” RATHER THAN THE “WHYS”
Wondering why a certain thing has happened to us often leads to anger, victimhood, or guilt. The for what, on the other hand, opens unlimited and hopeful horizons. If we are willing to explore life, without fear of making mistakes and expressing our dreams, living becomes a pleasant adventure. Searching for happiness is meaningless when we are happy walking the path.