Routines help us feel safe in our comfort zone, but sometimes they prevent us from conquering stimulating zones of lack of control. How to discover them?
If you have decided not to let routine take over your life, we offer you several keys that can help you break the inertia and change your look, your behavior and your attitude.
1. PUTTING YOURSELF IN “CRAZY MODE”
The routine becomes a corset when what we do in our day to day loses its meaning but we do not dare to change because inertia and fear overcome us. An antidote to this could be to find out what it is that we really want and are not daring to do.
To do this, it may be useful to ask ourselves the following question: “If I felt crazy, what would I do?”. Writing down the ideas that come up, examining them and choosing a few to carry them out will help us to break that corset.
2. FACING NEW CHALLENGES
Facing new challenges on a daily basis is a way to get out of the comfort zone. Doing so allows us to evolve and launch new resources that perhaps we did not know we had until then.
The new challenges can range from doing a different activity such as going to the movies without company to making love in a different and risky place. We can also dare to disobey a rule, to make mistakes on purpose or to say no to something we usually do but don’t feel like it.
3. BET ON REBELLION
The psychologist Ute Ehrhardt says in her book good girls go to heaven and bad girls everywhere that sometimes goodness and guilt prevent legitimate enjoyment and make it difficult to fight for what we want and feel that it is the purpose of our lives. life.
Let’s try this exercise: include something in our routine every day that fills only us, even if it seems that we are being selfish with others.
4. “DRESS UP” OUR HABITS
Instead of breaking a habit that bothers us, we can try to transform it:
- For example, if we are fed up with traffic jams when going to work, it may help us to leave the car and go walking or cycling.
- If listening to the news in the morning is what puts us in a bad mood, it will help to replace it with some music.
- If what we have to do is get up early every day, we can schedule some pleasant activity first thing in the day, such as swimming or writing.
5. DO CREATIVE THINGS
Our culture is very focused on goals and productivity, but it is creativity that makes us feel better about ourselves. It happens, among other things, because it makes it easier for us to look inward and lets us be, without conditions.
Let’s try to open a door to creativity at least once a week. We can go to the theater, write a diary, paint mandalas, do crafts, knit, go for a walk taking pictures.
6. GIVE PLEASURE A CERTAIN PRIORITY
What place does pleasure occupy in our lives?
We tend to relegate it. We leave it for when we have already fulfilled all our obligations, which means that it has almost no space left.
Reserving time for the body each day (to get a massage, enjoy sex, relax with a hot bath) can be stimulating. It is about making pleasure part of our daily lives to make the rest of the chores more pleasant.
7. THINK DIFFERENTLY
It is important to reserve spaces to sit quietly and relax. No objectives.
As we stop and open ourselves to this void, a broader look and understanding of what is happening around us arises and we have a more complete perception of what is happening to us. In this way we can find other answers to our concerns or ways away from the usual automatism.
Paying attention to our breathing and bodily sensations can help us connect with that wiser part.
8. OBSERVE WHAT DOES CHANGE
Everything flows. Everything is constantly changing. But we are so fast that we do not pay attention to how nature changes with the change of season and the passage of time.
Realizing this helps us to remove the feeling that life is static. To achieve this, it is essential to maintain contact with nature (if we are in the city, we can walk through a park) to observe that the leaves of the trees are greener in spring or more yellow in autumn, that the flowers have sprouted.
9. CONJUGATE ROUTINES AND CHANGES
Certain people suffer an over-adaptation to routine, the result of the fear of facing themselves and changing what they do not like and it hurts. This is a symptom that occurs often in people who have been very traumatized in childhood.
On the other hand, the opposite is not healthy either, that is, being addicted to constant changes and being completely intolerant of routines.