Emotions Do you live on a roller coaster? Stabilize your emotions...

Do you live on a roller coaster? Stabilize your emotions with your creativity

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Swings in our mood are healthy. But if we rush from exaltation to the deepest sadness for no apparent reason, how can we regulate ourselves?

Marta goes to the family doctor to explain the uneasiness she feels at her latest emotional breakdown and, above all, her growing emotional ups and downs. He barely looks at her; Instead, he prescribes an antidepressant, a hypnotic, and an anxiolytic. As she goes to meet her best friend, with whom she has arranged to see an exhibition, she throws the recipes into a trash can.

During the visit, Marta says that she is thinking of starting therapy. “Another?”, Her friend is amazed. “It is because of this extreme instability, these sudden, uncontrollable mood swings,” Marta justifies herself. “But Marta”, says her friend, “if you already know what happens to you with the therapists. You leave therapy because they are not ‘feeding’ you enough, or not as you would like. Why don’t you just assume you’re unstable, period? Why don’t you stop desperately looking around you and, with your imagination and sensitivity, do something for yourself ?

WHERE DOES THIS EMOTIONAL INSTABILITY COME FROM?

Marta is silent for a long time as she walks past the paintings without seeing them. Suddenly he is moved. How she liked to paint when she was little! After receiving a diagnosis of gifted child, her parents had placed high intellectual demands on her, and they also expected her to be good, receptive and conformist. The drawing was his only stronghold of freedom.

Sometimes he would paint at the desk, not realize it, and end up stuffing it with a pencil universe full of bugs, unicorns, aliens, and seahorses. Until one day they threatened to expel her from class if she continued painting, and she stopped doing it.

Then, in adolescence, in her attempt to separate from her parents, she began to oscillate between the most radical apathy and the most frantic activity, between the darkest depression and the most insane euphoria, and that continuous feeling of instability has never left her. It is as if he did not have good internalized emotional anchors.

Think also of Jonathan, of him and all his emotional breakups. No one will ever be able to fulfill your desperate need for love. Although he yearns for the bond deeply, he always ends up destroying it.

Her friend brings her out of reverie and, before leaving, asks her to take care of herself . Beer and chips for dinner is not a healthy diet, he tells her. Not working until two in the morning.

When you return home, it seems too big. He wanders, walks through spaces, opens and closes doors. Finally, he is about to contemplate old photographs. Instinctively, he chooses one of his parents and rescues her paint kit from the junk room. After hours, when she is finished, she feels satisfied and calm.

From then on, he begins to paint daily after work. Little by little she fills the door of her house, the kitchen cupboard, the table where she works with color, By painting, she once again appropriates a previously common space that now belongs only to her. With the pulse of her hand, without reflecting on it, she outlines a new portrait of herself: by bringing the objects of her daily life to the canvas, she can be seen without fluctuations.

It is a time of enjoyment and delight in which for the first time you can enjoy solitude, you do not have to prove anything to anyone and you do not depend on external stimuli. As the days go by, she feels more self-centered, she can perceive her true needs, what her body and heart need her oscillating anxiety calms and she is better able to take care of herself as she deserves.

In the past, Marta would have run to try to calm her fears by hiding them under frenzied activity, going out every night in search of something that does not exist, prey to an abysmal pendulum movement that would lock her back into herself.

Thanks to the painting and the self-care that she finally seeks, Marta has been awakening her dormant creativity, she has managed to express herself by pacing herself in a free and calm movement. Painting has become the axis he needed to be able to flow in peace and build a full and peaceful life around him. He has understood that being healthy consists in unfolding the potentialities that each one of us has inside, in shaping them and in accompanying them with affection and respect.

YOU CAN TOO: FIND EMOTIONAL SERENITY

Living on a slide of emotions causes us great wear and tear. To try to balance our moods and regain some peace it is necessary, from the outset, not to judge ourselves and to establish certain routines.

We propose some exercises that may be useful to you.

THREE KEYS IN YOUR DAY TO DAY

  • Decide in which space you will develop each daily activity and learn to properly distribute your time.
  • Look for creative resources with which you feel identified and that allow you to unleash all the potentialities and skills that beat within you. Try different artistic activities until you find the one you feel comfortable with. Be constant, it will help you forge a solid inner referential bond.
  • Accept the wide range of emotions that you feel as something genuine in you, do not try to separate yourself from them. Any emotion, no matter how unpleasant, can live within you; it is about learning to contemplate it without judging it. Give yourself all the time you need to feel.

PRACTICES THAT WILL HELP YOU

Find a place where no one will bother you and where you are calm and quiet.

Think of an imaginary place where you feel comfortable to frame and visualize your emotions:

VISUALIZE SERENITY

  • Name an emotion that overwhelms you and visualize it as if it were a stone.
  • Contemplate the calm of the lake that is offered before you. Imagine the temperature, the color, the atmosphere. and the sound of calm water. In addition to the lake, you can summon natural elements of the environment that connect with the essence of your being.
  • Throw the stone into the lake with all you might. Observe how it disappears and the sound it makes when it submerges.
  • Enjoy the propagation of waves on the surface of the lake. Visualize the concentric circles: each wave exactly repeats the previous movement.
  • Remember that the stone is your emotion. Visualize how the disturbance that has caused your emotion is transmitted smoothly and continuously until it is extinguished, like waves.

VISUALIZE THE BALANCE

  • Imagine that you are on a giant pendulum from which you can control the speed and make it slow.
  • Close your eyes and perceive the wonderful undulating movement to one side and the other of the space of that pendulum in which you participate. Stop at it, don’t be in a hurry.
  • Now imagine that the pendulum swings between two large spheres that represent the opposite poles of your most extreme emotions: sadness and joy.
  • Don’t stop swinging, slower and slower. Enjoy the ripple and the present moment. Take pleasure in it. You are about to touch the sphere of sadness; you can almost touch it with your fingers. Imagine what color it is, how light it is, its texture and size. Keep imagining its aroma, its taste, its sound. Stay there for as long as you need until you can perceive it with all five senses in a way that is pleasant to you.
  • Now slowly flow into the sphere of joy, following the same procedure.
  • Repeat that rocking from side to side as many times as necessary until your mind and body are completely calm.
MindFixes Staffhttp://mindfixes.com
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