Relationship Grooming: the deception of pedophiles on the internet

Grooming: the deception of pedophiles on the internet

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It is normal that in adolescence we want to explore new relationships. The web is a conducive space for this, but we must protect ourselves to avoid abuses.

The access of children and adolescents to the Internet is an issue that is not without controversy.

On the one hand we find the positions related to control and restriction, and on the other, those that advocate more for awareness and education. The idea of ​​this article is more aligned with the second, however, I do believe that certain guidelines are necessary to help evaluate and manage the vast amount of accessible information, protect privacy and learn to defend integrity and security.

On the one hand we find the positions related to control and restriction, and on the other, those that advocate more for awareness and education. The idea of ​​this article is more aligned with the second, however, I do believe that certain guidelines are necessary to help evaluate and manage the vast amount of accessible information, protect privacy and learn to defend integrity and security.

All this combined with the accessibility of the internet can overwhelm or lead to dangerous and harmful situations sponsored by anonymity.

Among the most potentially dangerous are those related to harassment, blackmail and sexual abuse, both among equals and by pedophiles and pedophiles. These behaviors are known as ” sextortion ” and ” grooming.”

WHAT IS KNOWN AS GROOMING?

This is what deception by pedophiles and pedophiles is called, in order to gain your trust and in order to obtain images of you with little or no clothes. He may then try to blackmail you into sexually abusing you, or at best use those images for his sexual satisfaction.

Little by little he becomes intimate, offers you gifts, asks you to keep the secret. It will ask you for photos, or that you connect the webcam to see you. He will flatter you, and ask you to teach him more and more. Over time he will use those photos to blackmail you, he will threaten to spread them.

In the end the oppression can be claustrophobic and feel like there is no way out. There always is.

HOW TO AVOID IT?

I offer you some guidelines to help you protect yourself, detect and, if necessary, report grooming.

  • The first thing to take into account is to have the connection devices protected against “malware” programs that can be used to access the passwords, location or any personal information.
    • It is advisable to obtain advice on programs and applications to protect the equipment and the information provided.
    • Choose the most “secure” social networks if any is.
    • Don’t download programs from unknown sources.
    • If you don’t know, ask for help.
  • Do not use your real name, create an alias as neutral as possible.
  • Be wary of people who ask you for personal information, such as real name, place of residence, age, study center, access codes.
  • Your privacy is a precious asset, both on the internet and in your real life. Take care of it and protect it.
  • Do not trust the name or photo that he has in the profile. It could be an adult posing as someone your age.
  • Take care of your digital image, think before publishing.
  • Don’t add people you don’t know to your network.
  • Do not use the webcam with strangers.

WARNING SIGNS?

Here are some indications that you can take into account to detect a grooming situation. Do not play it, at the slightest doubt give the notice to someone you trust. You can also ask for help from the Telematic Crimes Unit of the Civil Guard or the Friendly Screens Association.

  • If the conversations make you feel uncomfortable or uncomfortable, it is a sign that the content of the conversations is not pleasant to you.
  • If you feel that he asks you for more than you want to give, be it time, information or photos, he does not respect you. It does not matter if it is your age or older. If he doesn’t respect you, he will end up hurting that relationship.
  • If he asks you to keep the conversations secret and not comment on it with anyone. Healthy relationships don’t need to be hidden.
  • If he offers you expensive gifts in exchange for photos without clothes. If you agree, that person will have the power of your privacy and will ask you for more and more. Those photos will be the “weapon” to blackmail you.
  • If he asks you to meet in secluded places, or hotels. Ideally, you don’t. If you are going to meet someone you do not know anything other than online, make sure it is in public places with easy access and not too close to your home.
  • If you detect that it gives you contradictory information or that it changes version. Pedophiles seek to create a climate of trust; they do not hesitate to conform to what you want to hear.

One point to keep in mind is that if you are not the victim, but images of sexual or humiliating content come to you, discuss it with an adult you trust, and then delete them and do not share them.

Apart from the fact that it can be considered a crime, the potential harm to the victim can be enormous: in some cases, they have reached suicide due to the pressure and suffering felt.

Learn to take care of your privacy and do not overexpose yourself unnecessarily.

MindFixes Staffhttp://mindfixes.com
MindFixes is dedicated to promoting mental health, preventing mental disorders and advocating, educating, and serving all people with mental and substance use conditions. MindFixes is determined to persevere, learn, grow, love and laugh through our wellness journey and we invite all to join.

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