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Image perfect obsession: how to overcome it


You look very good! Those who hear these words feel their spirits rise: this indicates the extent to which body image reflects personal values. But we can take care of our image without obsessing over canons and fashions.

We dress in one way when we want to stand out, show superiority or power, and another when we sense that the person who best camouflages wins, who manages to go unnoticed, like the chameleon whose skin blends into the terrain.

The relationship with clothing, the ability to adapt to what the environment expects of one, the guidelines that guide our choices in this regard, are educated from childhood.

Parents are the first to choose clothes for us. With them we learn to place clothing somewhere on our priority scale.

Whether we like it or not, we all end up using clothing as a sign of identity and as a basis on which we add different meanings.


It is given increasing importance to physical appearance; Beauty canons are becoming more and more rigid, especially in the case of women, for whom an ideal of beauty is conveyed that seems an incitement to cosmetic surgery.

The models have a perfect body, they are handsome, they are dressed to the last, they are successful, class, the unconditional esteem of the other Who would not want that?

There are messages that associate physical attractiveness and image with the greater possibilities of achieving more things in life, so that personal values ​​and qualities such as generosity, responsibility or honesty are relegated.


We all need to feel appreciated and valued. But why do some people end up becoming slaves to their own fight for the perfect image?

When we have not managed to build a good self-esteem that allows us, among other things, to feel confident about ourselves and comfortable in our skin, it is easier to fall into the trap of obtaining the approval of others through physical appearance.

Insecurity, on the other hand, provides a false escape it makes us more prone to perfectionism, self-demand and the need to control everything external.

If that happens, we believe that we can control the image we transmit and, with it, what others think of us.

This assumption leads many people to dedicate themselves to this task body and soul, which almost always ends in frustration because the goal itself is illusory.

When disappointment occurs, the person feels more useless (blames himself for the failure) and, like a good perfectionist, insists on his determination.

The euphoria of the purchase, the promise of success and happiness, soon fades into a morass of frustration and guilt that increases anxiety and, with it, the compulsive flight towards a new purchase, which will grant that intense pleasure, although brief and illusory., which in turn will lead to frustration and guilt.

Only when, by relativizing the external search, we focus our gaze to rebuild ourselves  from within, we will be able to understand what a particular external image projects and we will learn to manage it without obsessions or rigidities, with the security of someone who does not want to demonstrate anything.


If the level of dissatisfaction with body image begins to be conflictive, it is easy for these situations to arise:

  • Perceiving parts of one’s own body that are different from what they really are.
  • Be convinced that other people are attractive and that your figure or stature symbolizes failure.
  • Feeling uncomfortable, anxious, or embarrassed when thinking about your own body.
  • Think about that problem for a long time.
  • Shunning certain people or situations because they don’t feel up to it.
  • Value the image of others more than their personality or ideas.
  • Avoid doing things that would be done if you had another body or image.
  • Do not dare to comment on personal feelings regarding your own image.


It is clear that we are not what we wear, but the choices we make in this regard express part of our personality and state of mind.

In turn, the way we feel about clothing and the reactions it provokes influence our self-esteem and our social development.

This is an inescapable reality. We must be able to manage it taking advantage of its possibilities but without falling into the superficiality of believing that we are, basically, physical appearance.

When the first impression is positive or neutral, the other person adopts an attitude that facilitates the meeting or professional relationship.

Not taking into account the power of the image that we project through clothing can, on the contrary, cause us to spend precious time to counteract a distorted image that others have been able to form of us.


Fashion takes a different form for each need and all of them come together in that global concept that few escape. But who sets the criteria for fashion?

Josep Pons, image consultant, responds ” Fashions are born in marginal sectors. Their ideas are captured by designers who set trends. Normally their designs are proposed to artists, musical groups, athletes, opinion leaders and people from the media world so that They use them. From there, these concepts are attenuated, softened and are captured by the large firms that will make them reach the stores “.

But does anyone wear what comes out on the catwalks? I ask him. ” Everything is organized to attract attention, as an advertising claim to talk about the firm. Afterwards, the collections that reach the stores are very different.”

But I still have the feeling that fashion is cyclical, that if you have enough wardrobe, just wait for wide trousers or straight-cut jackets to return.

“No, it is never quite the same, ” Pons answers, armed with patience. “If you take the wardrobe from Mesopotamia to the present day, you will see that in all collections there are always trends that recall certain times. What happens is that they are combined in a way that you cannot say that it is a copy: a bit of the ‘Egypt’ concept, a military touch, mixed with 1920s garments, for example. This is how fashion is generated, it is taken to stores and it is assimilated in such a way that things that from the outset they wouldn’t fit in with us, they end up getting carried away. The goal is to get all of us to change our wardrobes every season if we don’t want to look out of date. ”


  1. Examine the closet calmly. You have to sincerely ask yourself what clothes are needed, trying to be objective and distinguish between real requirements and desires.
  2. Establish a budget, taking into account fixed monthly income and expenses.
  3. You do not have to buy without knowing, in advance, how far you can go. Making a list will serve to avoid forgetting but also to help you not get carried away by the impulse. We must always check the labeling of garments and gather the necessary information from the seller. It is convenient to ask yourself each time if the garment really likes you, if it improves the whole wardrobe and if it harmonizes with yourself.
  4. Do not buy compulsively. You should not go shopping when you are very discouraged or anxious; Better to remember that acquiring more clothes than necessary only relaxes in the short term and implies a waste of money and energy. Anyone who feels an irrepressible desire to go shopping can simply decide to wait an hour before doing so, reassessing the situation and their desire after that period. If you decide to buy, you have to reflect on the advantages and disadvantages of the garment in question.
  5. Be aware of the values that guide personal choices and reflect on them comfort, discretion, fashion, transgression, functionality, showing status, staying in one’s own socioeconomic level, highlighting, type or quality of fabric, price.
  6. Do not compete with yourself or with anyone. The external image should be given the place it deserves and no more. Obsessions indicate that something is wrong.
  7. Be flexible. The image does not have to be stark. Dressing one day in a different way allows you to gain ease and open-mindedness.
MindFixes Staff
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