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School of life: how to become increasingly wise


The real and only challenge in life is to become increasingly wise. And the only school for this learning is life itself. But where do you learn to be wiser? Who will be our teachers? Where is that school?

The ultimate meaning of people’s lives does not happen, in my opinion, by becoming happy or by accumulating achievements. Not even for the much-publicized goal of being able to leave a trace of our step by helping others. I believe that the true and only challenge, significant and common to all, is to face the not easy task of becoming increasingly wise.

Although I am also convinced that, in this way, we will also be happier, we will achieve more things and we will leave behind us the indelible trail of how much we have done and bequeathed to others. You learn to add and subtract at school; to swim, in the pool of the club; and to ride a bicycle, hand in hand with a mother or a grandfather in the square next to the house. But where do you learn to be wiser? Who will be our teachers? Where is that school?

There is no such school, there is no specific place to attend, nor an enlightened, unique teacher willing to teach us everything we need to know. For better and for worse, the only school for this learning is life itself. It is easy to understand, having said that, why we always maintain that wisdom is a heritage of the elderly, of those who have lived longer and, therefore, have learned more things.


At the entrance to the public school where my children attended their first years of primary school, there was a text painted in elegant and neat white letters. Its meaning and content were anticipated from the title: “School rules” And it listed, one after another, some rules to be met by the students. It said, more or less:

  1. Do not miss.
  2. Take care of the school.
  3. Make many friends.
  4. Be a good partner.
  5. Take care of the tools.
  6. Pay attention to teachers.
  7. Learn to have fun while learning.
  8. Ask for forgiveness if you hurt others.
  9. Don’t get angry when something doesn’t come out. Try again.
  10. Come to school wanting to learn.

And it occurs to me that these rules, which are neither perfect nor all, could serve as a beginner’s guide for any school. Why not also for life?


To be absent, in this learning of the everyday, would be “not to live.” Not participating participatively in one’s own existence. Go through life without committing, without actually being there. The lament, the complaint and the whining as a system take us out of the present and away from the class of today. Commitment and responsible presence are the necessary attitudes to not miss the appointment.


Taking care of the school is taking care of life. His own and that of others. That of loved ones and that of strangers. That of compatriots and that of the inhabitants of the most distant countries. That of people and animals, here and everywhere; but, above all, take care of her not only now but also when we are no longer in school.


Life is a personal journey, but never a lonely one. It cannot be learned if there is no one from whom, and its meaning tends to disappear if we do not have someone to share it with. The difficulty is divided when we face it together with a friend; the enjoyment is multiplied if we can share it. We are not alone in the universe.


In the school of life, being a good partner is understanding what happens to the other and needs, even if their desire goes against our interests, and defending their right to fight for it. It is to understand the concept of “we”, knowing that we are all one; if only because we are classmates.

The word companion, in its etymological root, means “the one who shares bread with us” and, by extension, “the one with whom I share the good and the bad that I have and that I am”.


The best teaching, the most important learning, can happen every moment. In the school of life, no one is the teacher because everyone is. Therefore, it is necessary to be aware and attentive all the time, willing to squeeze every moment until we get the most precious juice from what each one of us can teach us at every moment.

In this school, the teacher is not only those who, in white coats, teach their class from the podium; They are also and, above all, those who listen with us and those who follow us, even those who supposedly know less. To pay attention is to be aware of what I am, what I do and what I feel at all times, but it is also to realize that, since you are also my teacher, I should be attentive in each encounter to what you say to me. , so as not to miss anything you have to teach me.


The supplies in this school are of all kinds, sizes and importance. Tools and resources that we talk about thousands of times here. Internal and external, innate and acquired, frequently used or sophisticated and reserved for few occasions… But all of them must be cared for, trained and enlisted. We must know what we have to be able to use it at all times. As a famous Argentine humorist said, “it is better to be prepared and not go, than to go and not be prepared.”


Learnings do not have to be serious or circumspect. Wisdom is neither harsh nor boring; on the contrary, it opens us to a world of more enjoyment and satisfaction. The routine is boring because it does not teach. Let’s not forget that the word boredom comes from “donkey” and evokes the life of the poor animal that goes around the Ferris wheel, traveling the same path over and over again.

Playing with life , the best of what lies within us appears, and the universe can be explored as if it were as new and surprising as it is.


During our course, and because we are learning, it is inevitable to make mistakes. And it is inevitable that some of those mistakes can hurt others. To continue learning, it is essential to take responsibility for what we do, think and speak.

And of course, part of taking responsibility is apologizing if we hurt someone, even if we don’t mean to. Only tyrants and authoritarians are unapologetic. It is part of learning to deal with tyrants, both internal and external.


In the school of everyday life, the first thing we learn, although we are not always aware of it, is that we only learn from mistakes. Encouraging ourselves to make mistakes is to mark the difference between a mediocre journey without surprises or a schooling full of light and discoveries. It is necessary to do things, even to make mistakes and try again, asking for help, if necessary, with all the humility of which we are capable.


I have met too many people who go through life privileging results and, above all, the glory and applause that others give to those who achieve the most. The good student is the one who values ​​his progress more than the results, the one who is fully satisfied with what he learns without the need to brag about it in front of others.

Education is not a series of definitive learning but a permanent search on themes that are linked. Individuals must be endowed with capacities and not with stereotyped and specific knowledge. This school does not reward those who best repeat the points of view of others, but rather those who are encouraged to explore life with an open, alert and reflective attitude.

That is the guarantee of good learning and also the passport to eternal youth, since it is not true that we necessarily stop learning when we age, but it is true that we necessarily age when we stop learning.

MindFixes Staff
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