The best relationship with yourself has to do with self-worth, with knowing yourself unique, valuable and irreplaceable.
Self-esteem is not synonymous with loving yourself, as is often thought, although it may include it. The idea behind it is more related to self-worth. The best relationship with oneself is one that is based on the certainty that each person is unique, valuable and irreplaceable. Yes, you read that right, irreplaceable.
If I’m not there, someone will take my place, of course; Someone will do my homework, of course, and maybe better than me. But no one will do any of those things exactly as I would have done – for better and for worse.
WHY ARE YOU UNIQUE
No one can give what you give as you give it. No one can receive what I have for you like you would. Nobody awakens in me the same feeling as you. Nobody can and it is not a minor issue – make mistakes like you do and correct mistakes in the same way.
Being as special as you are, it is not surprising that you give yourself the place you deserve in life and that you remember, as I always say laughing at my own assertions, that “I could and maybe many others could, but you. You can’t live without you”.
So, to be able to think about others later, you must learn, against many things badly learned, to think of yourself properly and permanently anticipate what you can to what you want, so that your desire is never conditioned by the truly impossible things that in general, they are not even the product of their own dreams.
Of course, the line that separates what is healthy from what is unhealthy is very fine and, in order not to cross it, it is not only essential to know your own limitations. It will also be necessary to take care that some true limitations of times gone by are not still fantasized as present and genuine disabilities.
Many ideas of “It should not be” or “It cannot” often belong to a past where I was not the owner of my decisions and I was not very aware of my preferences; a time in which he who I was, in fact, could not, did not know or did not even want to know, and that is why he remained dependent on the care of some and at the mercy of the decision of others.
WHY DON’T YOU BELIEVE IN YOUR ABILITIES?
Many times, from within and without, some voices try to dissuade us, anticipating failure, even before attempting a new challenge. Often times, those voices outweigh our desire or our need to take a risky step. The best part of self-esteem is in the confidence that we can develop in our capacity and our resources.
The decision to try the best of us. The certainty of knowing that, if we fail, we will have learned something for the next time. The reassurance that, as those who know best say, the end result will always favor those who once aligned their feelings and their thoughts with their actions.